Before making any decisions about what to do with your life ,family, jobs and daily choices that confront you, do you stop to seek God’s wisdom? When we come to decisions about choices we have to make, it is important to stop and listen. Come into a quiet place and rest a minute to hear the counsel of your Heavenly Father. A lot of what we encounter is the mess we made for ourselves. We charge in and think we know what’s best without seeking wisdom or knowing all the facts. We look at our surroundings and do not consider the journey. In our self-sufficiency we cross lines that will cause great distress and issues that could be avoided. We sometimes compromise where we need to stand strong. We have tendency to rush in and do it in our own strength. Stop, wait, listen and sit in expectation for the answer you need or the direction you need to take. Your choices affect all those around you. Choose wisely!
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding: In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths. Do not be wise in your own eyes. ” Proverbs 3:5-7 NKJV
Spend time with your children. Taking time to share yourself is one of the hardest things to do. Parenting takes sacrifices: your time, energy and yourself. As a parent we need to take time for our children. Your children are a gift from God and are ours only for a fleeting moment. Find something you love and share it with them. Make up stories and games that will make memories they will never forget. Plant seeds of love, joy and happiness. Water and tend to the garden of lives that you were blessed with. Remember it is the quality of time you spend and not the quantity of time spent that matters most. Children act out when they need you and your attention. When your time is short talk with them and plan to do it later. Keep your promise. Stick to it! Do not back out! Remember time spent with your children is priceless!
“Behold children are a heritage from the Lord. The fruit of the womb is a reward.” Ps. 127:3
What you speak is what you see. What you see is what you spoke. Tell someone they are stupid, dumb, or worthless and sooner rather than later they will believe it! Take note of how you speak to your children and those around you. Your life is what you created by your words and the words spoken over you. Choose this day to make a change. Start today speaking words of hope, love, and life to yourself and those around you. Especially your children! Start today to make a difference. Look in a mirror: speak to the lies and tell them you will believe them no longer. Speak life! You are beautiful, you are capable, you were created with a purpose. You have a plan, a destiny, and a future. Quit looking at the storm around you and look to the one who controls the storm. He will walk on water to get in the boat with you. Speak life to your children, speak life to yourself. Change your words -change your world. Create a better world for your children. Believe in the One who believes in you!
“I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully Made.” Ps 139:14
The hupogrammos is an ancient tool a teacher would use for writing in a box of wax. They would write a word and the students would use a stick to follow and trace what he did. Just like Jesus left us a hupogrammos to follow. Our children watch and follow what we do. Our lives are an open book for our children to read daily. We as parents need to lead by example. Children are human lie detectors and can pick up on fraud in a moment’s notice. The old antic “Do as I say and not as I do” will not work with them. If you want your children to live a life of purpose, live your life with a purpose. You need to be the example you want your children to follow. Be the best version of yourself, so they can be the best versions of themselves. Jesus gave us the best example. Follow Him and they will follow too.
Sometimes you have no control over what happens in your life. Sometimes you are blindsided by the little things. Letting go of these interruptions, worries and cares can relieve the pressure from within. So, the kids are fighting, your husband is late for work and you get blamed for his alarm not going off! The Dog chewed your shoe and you spilt your coffee on your new carpet. Let it go! Release your cares to your Heavenly Father. Is it easy, absolutely not! By giving up these cares, you allow Him to carry the burden your shoulders were never meant to carry. Let go in love and watch as your Heavenly Father moves on your behalf. I learned this early in my married life, was it hard yes! Did I always do it when I needed to, no. By letting go of the things I could not control, and working on the things I can, helped me to have peace. It then allowed Him to work on my husband. Remember a closed hand holds on and open hand releases to allow freedom.
“Casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7
Children add to the family dynamics. When you bring a child into your family it can be a challenge. Not only did you adjust as a couple, but now you have a helpless individual in your care as well. They now control your world! They tell you when to eat, sleep, and relax. They have a schedule all their own and they are an extension of your love. They are a gift from the Lord for a short time to watch over and care for. Your job as a parent is life altering. You create a safe place for them, full of love, joy, tenderness, and safety. Speaking into their live that first few years is so important. Pray for them, love them, hug, them, and be with them. Your love as a father and mother is the beginning of their journey to success or failure. Choose Love, Choose Life, Chose your Child!
“Behold children are a heritage from the Lord… Happy is the man whose quiver is full.” Psalm 127:3-5
Families are messy. Living with another person is difficult. When you enter a relationship, you are combining two lives, minds and individual personalities. Each with their own unreal expectations for the other. Our purpose is to prefer the other above ourselves. Laying aside our own agendas, wants and needs to take care of the other. Setting aside yourself to be what your significant other needs. By washing their feet and meeting them in their hurts and wounds, brings heling to them. They in return will meet your needs. I am not saying be a doormat but serve out of a heart of love. Choose the path less traveled. Talk to your heavenly Father and tell Him what is in your heart. Love as He loves you. Meet them t their deepest need and they will meet you. Choose Love.
Do not let the little things in life control you or ruin your day. Plans change, events happen, unexpected challenges occur. If you are anything like me, you have your best set plans laid out and then life happens. Someone may get sick, sporting events change, or your spouse just happens to come up with a better idea! Try to go with the flow of things. If your plan “A” doesn’t happen then let plan “B” work. I have learned through the years the best plans have a flaw, me! Go with the flow and embrace the time you have with your children. Tomorrow is another day with new challenges. Enjoy the moment and make some memories.
Enjoy your life’s Journey
Through my blog I hope to share Godly wisdom that I have learned through the years. I have been married for 32 years and have raised three wonderful children. Two of which are married and one is engaged to be married next year. My husband is a retired teacher and now a partner with his brother in a new business . I am still currently employed at the local high school. I have also been a class advisor to the junior and senior classes for the past ten years.
This is where my heart hurts for the youth of today. Daily I see many young men and young ladies struggling with choices they make to be accepted by their peers. Many do not have positive home lives or come from single family homes with a working parent struggling to make ends meet. They work hard to provide and find themselves sinking deeper into despair.
My hope is that I can share my life’s experiences and lessons I have learned with other parents and families. I do not promise that everyone’s life will be a bed of roses, but maybe we can pull out some weeds before they get overgrown. Every family is a garden full of potential. Every child is destined for greatness! They have a purpose, a plan, and a destiny. Every family , no matter the size, needs others to come along side to bring comfort and hope. Together we can make a difference.